6. He makes you take responsibly for his feelings. The abuser says, “You make me angry” instead of “I’m angry.” “I wouldn’t get so pissed off if you wouldn’t…” or “I didn’t hit you that hard. I was just playing. You just bruise easily.”
7. He’s insecure. God forbid the spotlight isn’t on him at all times. He will take the lack of attention as an insult – will often rant and rave about being disrespected – in some cases he’ll fish for compliments by asking if “something is wrong” with him. Without constant assurance he’s the best thing since sliced bread, he’s a total terror.
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8. He’s low-key cruel to animals and children. He thinks violence is funny. He may even expect kids to do things beyond their ability or tease them until they cry – then mock them while crying – all the while insisting that they “grow up.”
9. His uses “playful” force during sex. He enjoys choking you and will continue in a sexual act, even if you tell him it “hurts” or ask him to “stop.” He manipulates or forces you to engage in unwanted sex acts – and likely leave immediately after he’s gotten what he wants.
10. He has sudden mood swings. He goes from one extreme to another: love to hate, within a matter of minutes. In severe cases, he’ll withdraw completely, locking himself in his room – looking for a reaction.
11. He degrades you. Initially, it may feel like he’s just playing around — when he makes that slight comment about your weight, ass, or boobs. Over time, the “jokes” will become more cruel. He’ll tell you to “chill out” or “learn how to take a joke.” He may even use vulnerable points about your past or current life against you.
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12. There are rigid gender roles. He expects you to submit, serve, obey and remain at home.
If you feel your partner is displaying any of these behaviors, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship and should seek help from trusted friends, family or a local abused women’s shelter.
It’s Not ‘Just Playing’, Protective Or Love: 12 Signs You’re In An Abusive Relationship was originally published on blackdoctor.org
