3. I’ve seen and heard it all.

As happy as I am for everyone who has taken their lives to the next stage, I have had my eyes opened to what I like to call the reality after the honeymoon is over. After the celebrating and the family gatherings, and big hoopla wedding, it’s just you and the person you married, together. And as beautiful as that sounds, it’s a BIG DEAL. I think some people don’t take it as seriously as they should. I’ve seen folks my age run down the aisle and then run to the courtroom for a divorce just as quickly. Left and right I see the truth isn’t as rosy as it appears on social media. People really struggle through marriage. I’ve taken a dose of their reality checks and have decided I’d rather wait for it to be absolutely right, than just right for now.

4. I’m vain. 

What can I say, I love my figure. Call me selfish, but I am not ready to watch my body transform from children. I am in my 20’s and still enjoy it. I already feel my metabolism digging its grave, so I want to revel in my natural beauty that I don’t have to work THAT hard for while I still can. I’ve watched enough live births on Youtube to know that there is no coming back from that! I don’t care what anyone says, without a bit of nip and tuck the gym can only do so much!

5. I just want to slow life down.

You ever wake up and think like wow…life is passing me by. Love means a lot to me and it’s one of those things that I feel like you really have to let marinate. I guess what I am trying to say is that I am in no rush. I want to learn to fall in love with my life, my career and myself over and over again before I devote the rest of my life learning how to continue to love someone else. It’s a big commitment and right now I am working hard enough to stay committed to myself!

Now don’t get me wrong, I have no qualms with marriage or having children, it just isn’t where I’m at on my life’s timeline. I just want more people to respect that. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I’m only 26. Life is truly just beginning. I can’t get caught up on what point other people are at in their lives or where other people want me to be at in mine. I just have to continue to do me and what’s best for me.


Visit KissTheChaos.com and follow me on Instagram: @Ooolala_laa

Committed To ME: Why I’m Happy Loving Life & In No Rush For Marriage  was originally published on blackdoctor.org

« Previous page 1 2