I have a major issue and I could use some advice. I had been seeing this guy since the summer ended last year. He had me on “cloud 9″ and I thought I couldn’t have asked for a better man. He has everything, he’s a gentleman, listener, affectionate and FINE!!!
In previous relationships, I tend to jump in the bed to soon so I thought I would take a different path this time around and really get to know this guy. So I told him I wanted to wait a while and he was cool with it, honestly now that I think about it, he was a little to cool. He told me that he was patient, he respected my wishes and he would wait until I’m ready.
Like I said, he had all the works and had me floating. So over the holidays we decided to have sex and let me tell you, he was AMAZING!!! Things were going great until a few weeks ago. We had just came back from a lounge and we were both pretty tipsy. While we were having sex (it was kinda wild) he got up and pulled a box out the back of his drawer and it was a life sized dildo and this man had the nerve to ask me would I pump him with it. I was paralyzed, I couldn’t move. I told him that I wasn’t comfortable doing that and also it seemed a little gay. He tried really hard to convince me that he’s not gay and that he doesn’t feel like his “extremely freaky ways” are suspect!
I haven’t spoken to him since that night and it’s been almost two weeks. In his last message he said that he knows that he may have freaked me out but he really liked what we have and the ball’s in my court and to give him a call when I’m ready to talk. I’m so confused by all of this and too embarrassed to tell my friends and family because he’s been my dream come true for a few months and if I tell them, it’s a wrap. Is he gay or just “extremely freaky” like he says. What do I do? Do I talk to him or let it go?
